Where Have All the Smiles Gone?

I don’t mean to paint a bleak picture but everywhere I go, it seems that people are unhappy. We are being dominated by technology and I think it is having some negative effects. People look down at their phones, stare at a big screen, spend all day in front of a computer. Don’t worry, I know I’m in that trap. I’m in it right now as I stare at my computer. I feel that a lot of us have gotten out of touch with how to interact with one another, with how to feel proper emotions. A smiley face on a text message doesn’t equate to a smile in real life, nor should it ever. We actually feel emotion and live it when we interact with one another. When we see someone that we haven’t seen in a long time, a smile will appear on our face. When we receive a physical package or letter in the mail, a small smile may appear. When we get excellent service at a restaurant, smiles start to appear across the table. Smiles are around but they stay hidden until something prompts it.

I ask the world, why does it have to be like that? Why must we have to experience something in order to smile? Why must something positive be the impetus to turn that frown upside down? Why can’t we just smile every once in awhile? Why can’t we savor the present because that’s the only thing that is guaranteed? Why can’t we dig up past memories in our heads and reminisce and smile about the feelings we had at that moment? Why can’t we actively put ourselves in more situations in order to smile?

I can tell you it is tough to smile when you have a lot going on in your world. If you spend all day worrying about your big to-do list and you keep chipping at it, sure you’ll get through the list but will you be happy? Will you feel satisfied?

Life is never easy and everyone goes through a different set of problems. There are times it just sucks. There is no other word to describe the situation. The one thing that I’ve learned though is that you have to keep hope alive and you have to smile.

You have to smile in order to make yourself feel better.

You have to smile to make others in the room feel better.

You have to smile because even through adversity, there is always a lesson to learn, a person to thank, an end result that teaches you.

You have to smile because you are alive today.

You have to smile because you have a chance to live tomorrow.

You have to smile because you have a chance to keep changing people’s lives and making a difference.

That’s why even when the day is bad, you just have to smile.

I hope that you smile today!

~The Lermz

Use your smile to change this world. Don’t let this world change your smile.

blogentry_michaelIt’s 2013 folks. With a new year comes the excitement of setting goals and making yourself a better person. Who doesn’t want to approach a new year with passion and enthusiasm? In years past I had set so many goals for myself to work on during the year and most of the time I don’t make it through even half the year with all of the goals. It simply is a lot sometimes and you get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the world.

This year, I was thinking about what I should do and how to improve myself and work towards that goal. I was working on some blog content and I came across an inspirational picture that had the phrase “Use your smile to change this world. Don’t let this world change your smile.” I thought to myself, what a perfect phrase to summarize what I want to do this year. For 2013, I want to be happier. This is my New Year’s Resolution.

It seems like a simple thing to say you want to be happy. For most people, there are struggles in life that will continually get you down. Krista has commented to me multiple times in the past that I don’t smile as much. It might be a factor that I continually get up early and work long hours at work. It might be the struggles that both Krista and I endure through her medical journey. Could even be that even after a few years of my father’s death, something still seems missing in my heart. Or maybe it’s because I don’t have enough time to truly work on my passions which are this blog, doing website development or just talking and listening to people.

I can speculate on the reasons but I truly don’t know what the big factors are. It just seems like a big hodgepodge of things. What I do know is that I have the ability to get through this. I am given a chance every single day to rise up and fight through everything. I am given the chance to take care of the woman I love. I am given another chance to run around with Twix and see the pure joy that only a pet can give when you give it attention. I am given another chance to make a difference in this life. All of this is possible through God. In mysterious ways, he gives us blessings every day. Like for Christmas, there was so much support for Krista and I that it truly is overwhelming. I’ve never seen so many happy family members just rejoicing that they get to see Krista for a couple of hours. We’ve had the chance to have Tito Jun and Tita Rose here in Indiana for the past few months and it truly has helped us a lot as Krista noted in her previous blog entry. But most of all, God gives us another chance each day by allowing me to even just open my eyes and start my day.

I don’t think we’re meant to be sad and struggle everyday. I think God wants us to be happy. He wants us to be able to spread our love to everyone that we see. No matter if it’s a family member, your spouse, your cashier at the grocery store or the homeless person that you see on the street. The best way that we can spread that love is to smile because we are genuinely happy.

Therefore, my resolution this year is to be happy. It’s to do activities that make me happy like hanging out with Krista and Twix, going bowling, and working on this blog and other assorted projects. It might mean that I don’t climb up as high on the corporate ladder but it’s important to know what your priorities are. It’s time to stop letting this world dictate my mood. It’s time to change it with my smile 🙂

Happy New Year everyone!
-The Lermz